This is not a feminist post criticizing men. But some very important issues that need to be known by both. If you have some time please read the full post.
These issues are mostly prevalent in India. So if you are not an Indian, maybe you will not understand some issues.
As a woman, have you felt at times that it would be much better if you were a man??
Almost every girl at some time feels that.
I too have felt that. I am not saying that life is easy for men. They too face a lot of issues. But still here I am talking about the times when we feel like that:
# When I was in class 11, there was a scholarship for Single Girl Child and I was surprised that there was no single girl child in our class. Although there were single boy child, but no such girl. That day, I realised even if we say so much about equality, but differences do exist.
# The next time when I feel is when I have to think about safety everytime I go out anywhere. Boys are lucky about this🙃
# When you are told to take care of what you wear. Nobody would say that to a boy even if he is shirtless or in knickers. But imagine a woman wearing short dress. To me, wearing short dress is not a sign of independence and personally I don’t prefer it. But still if any woman wants to wear clothes by her choice, she is judged inappropriately.
# The dowry problem🤪
If you are an Indian, you must be very much aware about the problem. It is not at all acceptable to me. I mean what is that…a girl comes leaving her house, where she had spent more than 25 years( considering average age of marriage in India), where she had spent all her life for a man who can’t even afford a living for her….
The girl’s family should give you a girl, pay expenses of the marriage( The expenses of the marriage palace and marriage are all done by girl’s family in almost all cases. There are very rare cases when the expenses are shared by both families, but still we want royal marriages..) and if that was not enough..then on top of that, there is dowry. Even after that, at some point ‘that man’ make her feel like she has no value.
Some educated families act like they are not taking dowry but only to know that they are rejecting just material things, not the amount of money transferred in their bank accounts.. Can’t believe this?? You must have seen this when your sister or some other girl in your family had been married.
Come on .. dowry is dowry..
Why are you even marrying when you can’t afford that..
It is even worse than buying. Because whenever someone buys something, they pay the price. But here, you take the girl and you are even paid for that!!!! What a deal!!
I expect men of today’s generation will understand this and will stand against all this..
Women should be respected.. don’t you think that!
please all the brothers out there, make sure you are not doing this and that will be your step towards change.
And that’s why girls it is very important for you all to get education and have financial independence. It is very important for you, even more than boys. You have to create your value. Don’t take the opportunity you have got lightly, not all the girls get that. I will talk more about this in some another post.. Why as a woman you need to stand strong.
# Now if you are from a normal middle class family, you must have seen this:
Your dad can go to party late night and your mom waits for till he comes. Imagine your mother has gone partying with her friends late at night…would your father be waiting for her when she comes?? I would consider it a miracle, if that would happen..😅 But why so?? Do think that….
There are a lot of other things. If I talk about all, it would be a very long post. So, let’s bind it here.
Do let me know what you think about this in the comment section below?
Are there any other times when you have felt so?