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How extremity of anything can badly affect us…

Being extreme about anything can badly affect us. Are you living in extremity of anything? Let’s discuss

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Do not like if you have not read. Please!!!!! (Got two likes immediately as I published, please don’t do that)๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ˜‘


Extremity, as defined by various dictionaries, means “the furthest point, especially from the centre”. It means when we are deeply engrossed in something far more than usual or what is normal.

Though Extremity can open many doors for us, but still as it is said,” Excess of everything is bad”, it can destroy us too.

Let’s understand with an example. Exercising is beneficial for health, but if we do it extremely without taking proper rest, it is going to destroy our health.

Due to our behaviours, talents and certain opinions, we are always extremist towards certain thoughts and ideas. We form very solid perceptions and boundaries and get trapped in our extremist thoughts.

We make these thoughts more solid by finding like-minded people similar in thoughts and ideas to us.

Very often, the people we meet and interact with are from different categories. Let’s suppose your family and very close friends belong to category number 1. These are the people who love you, care for you and support you.. ‘but’ they may not understand your visions about life, career and your ideas. They may not be interested in things you are interested in or they may not understand or share the activities you like to do. But they can provide you a safe space, which means they let you have your visions and provide you care.

The next category: category number 2 is like-minded group. These people share same thoughts, ideas, visions as your’s. They also perform similar set of activities you like to perform and have almost similar lifestyle. These are the people you can have long discussions about what you like or topics you are interested in. ‘But’ these people may not be your well wishers. They may be jealous of you, in competition with you or may want to see you get belittled in front of them. They may not care about you or support you.

The 3rd category can be obviously, mix of first two, people who share same visions and also support and care for us. It is very rare to have such kind of people in your life, so if you have one, you are lucky.

There can be 4th category too, who neither have same visions nor they care for us. There are many such people. Having both such traits, it is likely you are not in touch with that kind of person or you simply ignore them.

Now, coming back to our topic of extremity, we all are in search of people in category 3, but as I said, it is rare. You would always have a mix of people of category 1 and 2 in your life.

Often, we keep on criticizing or rejecting some people, as they don’t share similar vision to us. But remember, they too have a different vision and why should they be aligned with yours?

So, we need a balance, balance of both kinds of people in our life. If we will be extremist in any type, it will surely make things difficult for us. We also need to spend time with people having different thoughts, as they can provide us different perspective. They can even introduce us to something unique and fascinating we never knew.

This was with people, moving on to other areas It can be your goals, like you are very extremist with certain things…I have to do this ..that in that obsession you forget all other things …your health, physical and mental, your family, your overall well being.

Or it can be your lifestyle, you may be following very strict diet or having very rigorous schedule.

Or it can be your beliefs, let’s say you believe in a certain religion and you are very extremist about it, so much that you hate everyone from any other religion and look down upon them.

It maybe like something we do often. When we admire some celebrity, we are often so extremist. That’s why there have been fights over: Lionel Messi or Christiano Ronaldo. ..or Virat Kohli or MS Dhoni. And then we create groups of people who admire same personality as us, and keep on fighting with and proving to other group. But why?? Does we get anything. NO Can’t we just appreciate there game or whatever talent they have?? None of us know them personally, Right?

We hear a lot these days, love yourself first or self love sort of things, but also take care to not be selfish in name of self love. On the other hand, some people help everybody without even thinking about themselves. So there too, be helpful but don’t forget yourself.

You see, it can be anything, but that extremity will surely destroy you. When we are off from the centre, we are more imbalanced and there are more chances of fall.

We always like to have fixated visions, we have defined right and wrong…but no one really knows what is right or wrong…so why so fixated. We need to be more flexible and balanced.

So, do check if you are not extreme in your thoughts. If you are, bring back your thoughts to centre and be more balanced.

What are your thoughts about this?

Have you felt your extremist thoughts disturbing you? Or it has helped you in any way??

Share your thoughts in the comments below.

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20 replies on “How extremity of anything can badly affect us…”

Do not like if you have not read. Please!!!!! (Got two likes immediately as I published, please donโ€™t do that)๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ˜‘

logoo ki aadat hoo gaii hai………..aapka likhaa hua ye word v nii padhege woo ๐Ÿ˜…๐Ÿ˜…๐Ÿ˜…

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Loved the important note at the beginning ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

I’ve been having this thought about extremists
“Stay away from extremists if you want to live a peaceful life”.

This is so well thought article. I agree with all the points you mentioned. Yes, we do need to be open for different ideas and opinions. Having same thoughts or views and going at extreme levels just to feel better about self is Toxic.

And the fan battles ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ They are pointless

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Its so important to have 3rd category people in our life.. unfortunately we don’t get one when we need the most… I had these thoughts of same visions and have always wondered where will i find them… But out of hundreds of ppl we meet we find atleast one… i do..

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