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10 ways in which Idolization badly affects you

Do you have the habit of idolizing celebrities and then get disappointed after hearing bad things about them? Read the full post to know its dangers.

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10 ways in which Idolization badly affects you

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Is there someone you idolize?

Do you have the habit of idolizing celebrities and then get disappointed after hearing bad things about them? Read the full post to know its dangers.

Contents

  • What is Idolization?
  • How it affects you –
    1. You begin to think that they have perfect life.
    2. You only get to know what they want you to know.
    3. You are only looking at the bright side.
    4. You can’t believe that they can have bad qualities.
    5. You indulge in arguments over them.
    6. Sometimes, arguments turn into heated debates and violence.
    7. You will feel immensely bad on knowing their ‘dark side’.
    8. You become deaf to ideas and views of others.
    9. You copy them.
    10. You lose your sense of individuality.

Idolization, as defined on web is “To regard with great or uncritical admiration.” When we worship someone with complete devotion.

Idolizing someone you admire is not a bad thing to do. But everything has a limit, that should not be crossed. When we over- admire some people without knowing them in person, we often get disappointed whenever someone says something against that person.


When you idolize beyond limits, it can cloud your judgement in following ways:

1) You begin to think that they have perfect life

Yes, the number-one reason you admire someone is because you want to be like them. In most cases, you think that the other person ,that is, “your idol” is living a perfect life and it is you who is lacking something. You create a false idea of a perfect life on the basis of fame, attention they get or lifestyle they have.

2) You only get to know what they want you to know

Unless you know someone personally, most of the people you admire have a secret life. You only get to know what they want you to know. You are still unaware of their life’s actual experiences and you are very quick to judge anyone on that basis . Here again, you find yourself in lack because you are not doing those things.

3) You are only looking at the bright side

When we admire someone, most of the times we look at the financial success or fame etc. We ignore that there may be things which they do not like about their job or work We ignore the challenges and obstacles that they overcame. In short, we don’t see the dark side of the situation.

4) You can’t believe that they can have bad qualities

When you over- admire someone, you start believing them as a perfect human, which is never a case. So, whenever you get to know any bad quality associated with them, you find it hard to accept and then eventually doubt yourself for choosing them as your idol.

You should treat them as other humans. They are not Gods, they too are people, normal people.

5) You indulge in arguments over them

Have you ever argued about your favorite celebrity with your friends??

If yes, how has it benefited you?

I am sure it hasn’t benefited you in any way. Winning such an argument can only satisfy your ego and nothing else( except when one of you know them in person). But still people do that. They defend the people whom they admire even it doesn’t serve them in any way.

6) Sometimes, arguments turn into heated debates and violence

Arguments about your idols
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Can you believe that?

People are fighting over someone they don’t know properly, and that too violently. They are demeaning each other and doing silly things.

This doesn’t benefit you in any way and nor will it make you a star in the eyes of your idol. Accept that it is you who admire them, you don’t have right to force anyone to admire them.

7) You will feel immensely bad on knowing their ‘dark side’

Let us first be clear that not everyone you admire will be bad or have a dark side. But in case they do, you will feel immensely bad about that and more than that you will feel bad about yourself.

So, instead of idolizing them as a person, idolize their work, their art unless you interact with them personally. How can you know about the person when you haven’t even seen them in different situations?

Also read: How extremity of anything can badly affect us…

8) You become deaf to ideas and views of others

When you over- idolize, you are not open to listen to other people. You may be lashing them out and saying all the bad stuff, just because their views are different from you.

You are not going to be right all the time. You should listen to others as well. There is no point in defending your own views and be harsh with others, when you yourself have no evidence for what you are talking about.

9) You copy them

Copying your idols
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Yes, you start copying them. You try to dress like them, speak like them and you want to be like them. This is weird and funny at the same times.

Let’s suppose you idolize an actor. Then surely, you will be looking upto them for your dressing and many other things. So, you start copying their attitudes and poses.

Ask yourself. .Is this uselful to you? Except for the case you want to become an actor, it will not be of a major use to you. Sometimes people spend a lot of money just to look like their idols. In this race, they even neglect their own financial status and what they are capable of buying. You may be broke and still finding branded clothes!!!

Also read: Social media making derogatory words “trendy” and “cool”: Where are we heading?

10) You lose your sense of individuality

When you are doing all of the above things, you are losing yourself. You aren’t using your brain enough to come out of that trap and make yourself worthy.

You have your own worth and individuality. You need not lose it by idolizing somebody. Let me make you remember , there isn’t any honour or award for ” The best idolizer in the world.” You will only be honoured for your capabilities and you need to focus on them.


Instead of idolizing celebrities and unknows, care for people you know and the ones who care for you. They are the ones you should be admiring more.

Also read: How loving your family can change the world

So, here are all the things that happen as a result of over- idolizing someone. Have I missed a point? Do share if you have another point in the comments below.

Share your opinions about this topic. Have you done this? Or have you any such experience? Feel free to comment below.

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8 replies on “10 ways in which Idolization badly affects you”

interesting. I am wondering…what do you think, is idolization more common for women than men? Because I guess that I have just too big ego to idolize somebody else. I mean, I guess most of the men. It is our competitive nature. I would rather try to become my own hero than to idolize somebody else.

But of course, there has been people that I looked up to, and they looked ‘perfect’ and it is almost like you are subconsciously trying to ignore their flaws.

interesting post..

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What I think is, men are more outgoing and they are having more experiences ( not saying women are ignorant), that’s why they know the ways of the world more than women.( They know how corrupt can a person be..etc..) This can be the reason why women are more prone to idolization.
Men generally idolize a sportsperson or someone they admire for their physique and want to be like them. As you said, for a man his own sense of worth is more important. They want to show they are worthy. But to some degree, men also practice idolization. So, yes I think it is more common to women as much I have seen.

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very interesting. I never thought about that before: “men are more outgoing and they are having more experiences ( not saying women are ignorant), that’s why they know the ways of the world more than women.( They know how corrupt can a person be..etc..) This can be the reason why women are more prone to idolization.”

thank you for this insight.

that is probably the reason why older people are less prone to idolization than young people…because they have more life-experiences …

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Oh wow, this article just keep getting better as you go on reading. This is such important thing that people don’t realise easily. A recent example of this is how the people who loved bollywood till few months back started Boycotting so many actors/actress, disliking trailers, giving threats to them & what not.

This is what happens when we idolize anyone. We just need to remind ourselves that no matter how famous or successful someone is, they are still a human just like everybody else.

Amazing article!!!

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